Tag Archive | perfectionism

I am creative!

I share a lot here about my struggles, but today I want to celebrate my progress I’m making in an area that is important to me.

I have never seen myself as a creative person and have spent years aching to create but firmly believing I couldn’t unless I was following someone else’s instructions.

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My inner critics

“We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.” ~ Roderick Thorp

My recent post on perfectionism has had me thinking about the ways that I talk to myself as a result of this perfectionistic streak of mine. I’ve known for years that my self-talk tends to be very critical, so that’s not new news to me. I also know that this is not good for me. It’s something I’ve been working on for years without much success. I have noticed something very interesting about this phenomenon lately that needs further exploring. I’m also suddenly finding myself encountering messages about dealing with this tendency, which indicate it must be time for me to tackle this issue again at a deeper level. Continue reading

After NaBloPoMo

With this post, I have now successfully completed NaBloPoMo (National Blog Posting Month) for 2010 by posting at least once every day for the month of November! (And because I started the daily posting in late October, this is actually my 38th consecutive posting day.) As sporadic as my posting has tended to be in the past, this is a significant accomplishment for me, and I’m feeling quite proud of myself for having the discipline to stick with it. In the process of doing this, I’ve reminded myself of my love of writing, had the chance to explore a bit of what my voice might truly sound like, and have processed some of the emotional and psychological junk I’ve been experiencing by getting the words out on the screen. I’m so glad I stepped up to the challenge!

The question now, however, is what I should do now that the enforced daily posting of NaBloPoMo is over. Continue reading


I came across a fantastic post on the topic of perfectionism yesterday on Blogher called 12 Tips to Becoming Your Authentic Self by Brené Brown that I’ve been pondering ever since. As someone who has been a perfectionist since I was a small child, this post really struck home in a most uncomfortable way despite the fact that I’ve been working on this tendency of mine for 20 years or more. I’ve heard much of what she had to say about the costs of perfectionism before (although reminders are always helpful), but there were also some new “aha” moments, including the idea that perfectionism is an inauthentic way to live! Continue reading