This post is the first in a series exploring living in curiosity vs. judgment. I wrote this series some time ago for a different blog when I had been reflecting deeply on this topic for a paper I wrote in coaching school. I am noticing more judgment and less curiosity in myself of late, and I’m re-visiting this series as a way of jump-starting my own curiosity again.
The ways in which we view the world affect what we perceive. Our attitudes, beliefs, and previous experiences all function as filters that shape the way we encounter the people and situations that make up our daily lives. They even influence the way that we see and understand ourselves.
In fact, our mind works hard to try to fit the information it receives into our preconceived expectations. If we believe that life is difficult, our brain selectively catalogs all information it receives that emphasizes that reality. Likewise, if we believe that life is good and full of blessings, our brain selectively notices everything that emphasizes that reality. Therefore, the reality we experience is directly related to what is going on in our mind rather than being a true snapshot of objective reality.
An important key to gaining awareness about the ways that our reality is being shaped by our internal attitudes, beliefs, and expectations is to approach people, including ourselves, and situations with a spirit of curiosity. This allows us to explore reality and our experience of it in ever-deeper ways.
The problem is that so many of us leave curiosity behind in childhood. As we grow into adulthood, we tend to increasingly lose sight of the curious nature we were born with and begin to pass judgment on those around us (including ourselves!) without taking the time to get all of the information first.
Over the next few days, I am going to be taking a look at curiosity and judgment and exploring the ways in which shifting from a place of judgment to a place of curiosity can bring us many benefits in the way we see and experience our worlds.
Check back tomorrow to explore the difference between curiosity and judgment and what each one looks like in our lives.
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