Acknowledging the in-between space

I’ve talked often in this blog about the chrysalis as that in-between space when one is no longer a caterpillar but is not yet a butterfly. Not only is this in-between space a challenging place to be because of the lack of definition and the degree of change happening, it is also hard because it’s a space that our culture does not often acknowledge. It’s definitely not a space that we honor.

As I have spent so much time in this space over the last couple of years, I have gradually grown accustomed to the tension of living in-between. It is still not an easy place to be, but I have learned to relax into it (most days) without fighting the journey.

Given this, I was surprised at how deeply meaningful it was to me to come across a passage from Pema Chodron today that acknowledged the reality and the challenge of this space. It was a validation of my experience that I didn’t even know I needed until I read it, but I found that her words have allowed me to relax even more deeply into this space and this process.

Due to the length of the quoted passage from her book The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times (affiliate link), I will not reproduce it here but will simply encourage each of you to read for yourselves the passage in her Facebook note called The In-Between Space. (This page is accessible to all users. No Facebook account is required.)

I hope this acknowledgment of this in-between space is as meaningful to any of you walking through this space as it has been for me.

A Note on Comments: A chrysalis is by nature a fragile and vulnerable place to be, so I am committed to keeping this a safe place for me and for my readers. Comments sharing your own journey, even if your experience is different from mine, are always welcome and encouraged. Expressions of support or encouragement are also welcome. Comments that criticize, disparage, correct, or in any way attempt to undermine the validity of another person’s experience or personal insight are not welcome here and will be deleted.