“For all of the most important things, the timing always sucks. Waiting for a good time to quit your job? The stars will never align and the traffic lights of life will never all be green at the same time. The universe doesn’t conspire against you, but it doesn’t go out of its way to line up the pins either. Conditions are never perfect. ‘Someday’ is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you. Pro and con lists are just as bad. If it’s important to you and you want to do it “eventually,” just do it and correct course along the way.” ~Tim Ferriss (from The 4-Hour Workweek)
Obviously, I’ve already left my (full-time) job, so that one’s not an issue for me, but I still find I have plenty of other things that I’m continually waiting for the “right time” to do them. I am the queen of pro and con lists and can analyze decisions to death before I ever take action on anything. “Maybe someday” is probably one of my most overused phrases when it comes to following my dreams or doing the things I long to do.
What if I truly accepted the fact that there is not perfect time and no perfect conditions? What if I truly understood how short life is and how quickly “someday” will become never? What things would I look back from the end of my life and regret having never done or tried?
As I find myself continuing to shift away from my constant need for security (it’s still a work in progress), I find myself becoming increasingly willing to just try things and adjust my course along the way as I learn more. Sometimes this even means that I try something and discover that the reality of it is not at all what I had dreamed of, so I let it go and move on to something else. I’m also getting better at figuring out what I really don’t want to do (but do only because I think I “should”), so I can eliminate or reduce those things to make more time for those things that are my real dreams.
However, even believing that there is no perfect time, I still believe that I can choose timing wisely to make sure I give new opportunities the best possible chance to succeed. For example, right now I am focusing my efforts at my yoga teacher training to make sure I get the most out of that experience as I can. When that is done, then I will be ready to focus my attention on learning the next thing on my dream list. But I know myself better than to try to do too many things at once; that’s a surefire recipe for me not to succeed at any of them.
Once again, I guess it comes back to balance. I need to choose a time and place for each dream that gives it a reasonable chance to succeed without allowing myself to get stuck waiting for the perfect set of conditions. In that balance, though, my greatest challenge is still in choosing non-action over action, but I’m encouraged to see that slowly changing. I just may kick the someday disease yet!
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