“Giving away our power is something we have been taught since childhood by unaware adults in our lives.” ~DailyOM
The quote above was the headline quote in DailyOM’s recent post entitled Repressing the Inner Voice (well worth reading). This post talks about how we are taught early in life to begin ignoring our inner voice as we are forced to do things like hug and kiss relatives when we don’t want to. This sort of conditioning continues even when we are grown in the many ways we are required to act in order to be socially acceptable.
The key insight for me in this post was the link between this repression of our inner voices and giving away our power. I had never consciously linked honoring my inner knowing with owning my own power before. Although I’ve known for some time that I need to work on my tendency to give away my power, it hasn’t been a high priority on my list because I’ve been busy focusing on learning to listen to my intuition. But now I can see that they are linked. I can’t work on one without also focusing on the other.
I can’t own my power until I know what it is that I truly need, and I can’t know what that is until I learn to listen to my inner voice. Likewise, if I learn to listen to my inner voice but never claim my personal power, I will never act on that inner knowing.
While I was still digesting this concept, the following quote showed up on a friend’s Facebook page:
Living with integrity means:
•Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships.
•Asking for what you want and need from others.
•Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension.
•Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values.
•Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.
– Barbara De Angelis
As I look at this list of what living in integrity means, I notice that every item on the list really involves listening to my inner knowing and owning my own power. This tells me that I cannot live a life of integrity until I deal with these two issues. Because I place a high value on living with integrity, this is additional motivation for me to get with it. In fact, in areas where I know I am living with less than impeccable integrity, I can see how current conditions resulted from either not listening to my inner knowing or in not claiming my personal power (or both).
And while still pondering this connection, the following quote appeared:
“To be authentic means expressing who I am on the inside to the utmost, without calculating the risks involved.” — Efrat Shani
Once again, this goes right back to the idea of needing to listen to my inner voice and claiming my own power. I’ve talked before about the importance of authenticity to me, and this is telling me that I can’t achieve the kind of authenticity I desire without dealing with these twin issues.
The synchronicity of these three items all appearing almost at the same time has led me to a connection between owning my power, listening to my intuition, living in integrity, and living in authenticity that I would never have synthesized on my own. I would have continued working on all four of these things in isolation from each other—and in so doing, would have slowed any possible progress. Adjusting my focus to see that these four things are all interconnected is a radical shift in my understanding and will impact my future attempts at healing as I focus on the integration of these things.